This scene was actually when I went from feeling more or less neutral on Joan to actively disliking her.
Because wow, that was patronizing.
I loved that scene in Elementary.
1) Firstly, because it immediately deconstructs the “hero throws and breaks something in frustration” cliche (Sherlock throwing a glass slide in HoB, anyone?) it might even be seen as a parody of that cliche.
2) Secondly, because the dynamic is different between a man and a woman than it would be between two women or two men, the visual of a man smashing something in a temper in front of a woman can be taken as threatening or borderline abusive. Joan Watson immediately shows that she is not intimidated by Holmes’ behavior.
3) Lastly? One of the running themes of Elementary is the deconstruction of Sherlock Holmes as the solitary, antisocial genius, and his becoming a member of a community. Holmes’ gifts are given their due respect, but no one in Elementary plays the game of Because Sherlock Holmes is a Bloody Genius He Can Do Whatever He Wants So There. When Sherlock goes after Moriarty (“M”), Captain Gregson suspends him. When Sherlock doesn’t want to talk about his addiction, Alfredo says “You’ve got to get over yourself.” And when Sherlock behaves like a spoiled child, Joan tells him “Use your words.”
You see Joan patronizing Sherlock. I see a member of Sherlock’s community teaching him how to behave like an adult member of that community.
#joan watson#deconstructing bullshit genius expectatives since always#she’s what i always dreamed house’s wilson to be#except wilson got thrown under the bus
Additionally, Watson’s done good work for a number of years as a sober companion, not a manchild enabler. It’s quite literally her job to deconstruct people’s shitty self-defeating habits and demonstrate that there are better ways to live your life. She’s not in the business of humoring anyone or playing along with their tantrums, she’s in the business of fixing them. And what she does works! It gets spelled out explicitely in the text of the show: Sherlock himself admits that what’s changed about him, for the better, is her.
As an addict in recovery, I can tell you first hand that it is extremely easy to revert back into self-destructive behavior when faced with a sudden and very emotional shift in your life - Sherlock is hurting, he is thrown completely by the events of the week, and he chose a very poor coping skill - smashing the plate - to express this. And though he did apologize immediately, he walked away rather than talk to his best friend and confidant about his feelings. Communication is a tremendously important aspect of healing in the process of recovery - there is a reason we as members of 12-step programs are encouraged to get sponsors and talk to them about how we feel every single day.
So I don’t read Joan’s reaction as patronizing here - I read it as her way of reminding Sherlock that old habits are not the way he should be handling his grief and anger - after all, it was a lack of communication and proper coping skills that led him down the path of substance abuse in the first place. Joan knows this, and that’s why she demonstrates the futility of his choice to react in destructive anger (and yes, immaturity) by repeating it. It’s a way of reminding him how far he’s come in his recovery, and how old instincts have never worked for him.
This course of action also has the added benefit of shocking him out of the emotional whirlwind whipping through his head and grounding him back in reality. While some people may think this is an extreme choice to make when handling someone who has just lost a very dear friend, remember how very, very jeopardizing this situation is in regards to Sherlock’s sobriety - the last time he dealt with the death of a loved one, he ended up so strung out on drugs that he lost everything and was forced into rehab. Joan is extremely aware of this, and that’s why this scene is so incredibly crucial.
@dontbeanassharry are you still watching this? I need internet. I remember you talking about their relationship dynamic
(Source: elementarymydearworld, via thelastdogfighter)
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I used to really like Matt Morrison, now I just like his voice. He’s SO ANNOYING and Beyonce hates him
My co worker threw
Up in the bathroom today.
How am I not sick?
I can’t decide if I want this bed.
It’s a double so I’m not sure where to put it.
But MEMORY FOAM
No more back pain?
and no more futon
Futon loft for storage space?
They’d ship it to me
No restaurants during weekdays
No more doughnuts (awwww)
Bring lunch to work
And bring snack/ dinner
I can remember my lunch but by 4 I’m starvinggg
Also I need a bigger lunch box